Slow dating · verified people
Tandem matches you on the things that last — values, lifestyle, how you talk and what you’re looking for. A few thoughtful introductions a day, every profile photo-verified, never an endless swipe.
4.8 from 61,000+ members
who’d rather go on one good date than fifty chats.
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Maya, 31
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Theo, 34
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Daniel, 52
The best relationships don’t start with a perfect photo. They start with honesty, a little patience, and someone on the other side who is genuinely looking too.
How it works
No feeds to doom-scroll, no guessing games. Just a considered path from hello to “same time next week?”
Ten minutes, forty honest questions about values, lifestyle, communication and intentions.
A quick video selfie confirms you’re you. Everyone you meet has done the same.
Each evening at six, three to seven curated introductions — with the reasons you’ll click.
Use a conversation starter, pick a spot, and share your plans with a friend via Date Check-in.
Why Tandem
We built Tandem around how people actually fall for each other: slowly, through conversation, with someone they trust is real.
A handful of introductions each evening, chosen with care. When they’re gone, you’re done for the day.
Conversation starters drawn from your shared answers, so the first message is the easy part.
Every orientation and gender identity, ages 25 to 60-plus, with filters that respect who you are.
Nobody can buy their way to the top of your list. Visibility is earned by compatibility, not boosts.
See exactly why you were introduced — shared values, rhythms and intentions, not just distance.
Pause your profile any time without losing your matches or conversations. Come back when it feels right.
Success stories
Matched on communication & humour
“Our opener was about which of us was worse at parallel parking. Fourteen months later we still haven’t settled it — and we just signed a lease together.”
Amara & JordanBrisbane · together since 2024
Photo: Amara and Jordan laughing together while holding hands outdoors on a snowy day.
Matched on values & intentions
“I’d deleted every other app. Tandem showed me Sam with a note: ‘you both want a slow start and a big table at Christmas.’ It was exactly right.”
Luis & SamMelbourne · engaged in 2026
Photo: Luis and Sam embracing and smiling under a painted archway in an old European city.
Matched on lifestyle
“We were both ‘slow breakfast and the papers’ people. Our first date was a three-hour brunch. Our second was the same café, a week later.”
Nadia & EllieSydney · together since 2023
Photo: Nadia and Ellie sitting close on a porch bench, one kissing the other on the cheek.
Matched on values & humour
“At 63 I assumed apps weren’t for me. The verification made me feel safe, and Graham’s first message made me laugh out loud on the tram.”
Ruth & GrahamAdelaide · together since 2022
Photo: Ruth and Graham laughing together on a bench in front of a timber cabin.
Trust, privacy & safety
Meeting someone new takes courage. We take the rest seriously — with verification on every profile, privacy set to “closed” by default, and real people reviewing every report.
Verified
Date Check-in is on
Coffee with Theo · 6:30 pm
A short video selfie is matched against profile photos before anyone can message. Verified badges can’t be bought or faked.
Your profile is only shown to people you’re matched with. Surname, workplace and exact location are never displayed. We never sell your data.
From any chat or profile. Blocking is instant and invisible, and reports can be made anonymously — even after you’ve unmatched.
Share when and where you’re meeting with a trusted friend. We’ll check in at a time you choose and alert them if you don’t respond.
Trained moderators review every report, usually within two hours. Harassment, hate and scams mean removal — no second chances.
Membership
Every plan includes verification, safety tools and the full compatibility quiz. Cancel any time in two taps.
For getting a feel for slow dating.
$0/ month
Free, forever
Join for freeMost chosen
For dating with a little more intention.
$19/ month
Billed monthly
Choose PlusFor a guided, personal search.
$34/ month
Billed monthly
Choose PremiumPrices in AUD, including GST. Yearly plans are charged once, up front.
The Tandem Journal
Practical advice, honest research and real stories from our editors, safety team and members.
Job talk is safe, but it rarely tells you who someone is. We tested dozens of openers on real first dates — these three led to the longest, warmest conversations.
Public places, your own ride home and a friend in the loop — the simple habits our safety team swears by.
Shorter than the first, planned within a week, and almost never dinner. The patterns behind dates that turned into “us”.
Three members on dating again after long marriages, grown-up kids and a lot of self-doubt — and what finally helped.
Find your match
Create your free profile in two minutes. Your first match drop arrives this evening at six.
The Tandem app
Your daily match drop lands at six. Read the reasons, send a thoughtful opener, then put your phone down and get on with your night.
